I read a post on another blog tonight. It's a young-widow's blog. She was sharing that she had talked with a friend who had lost their son...and the wiser-older man told her that "When you are married, your joy is doubled and your troubles are halved."
Boy, isn't that the truth. I cannot remember ever in my life being happier than I was during the 5 years Chris and I were married. I think almost every day about the fun things we did together, the hilarious things he would do to make me laugh, the silly conversations we had. We were kind of dorks and liked to play Mancala and Backgammon. When we were dating and first married, before Jackson was born, we used to go to Wal-Mart really late at night. Just to hang out, to laugh at the other people who were there. It's the least stressful time to be at Wal-Mart, and it was fun. We liked to go to the zoo...although we started thinking we had some kind of curse 'cause every time we tried to go to the zoo for like 2 years, it rained. So, we learned to pack a lunch and we'd sit at the pond in the truck and eat our lunch in the rain. Chris made up alternate lyrics to songs, and he'd sing them in all seriousness while driving around town. I would laugh so hard I would nearly wet my pants. So, yes, I would say that definitely our joy was doubled...
I think I would also agree that our troubles were halved. Seems that anything was easier solved or dealt with after talking it out with him. He had a level head and really made smart, calculated decisions. He had a few years of life on me, and therefore had more experiences to draw from. When I would get all in a dither about something, he would say "when you can act like an adult, we can talk about this." Wow. What a guy.
I would also say that without Chris, my joy is probably halved. Don't get me wrong. I still enjoy things. I love my children and they truly crack me up. I have fun with family and friends, and I certainly don't miss an opportunity to go do something fun. But, I always think about how much more fun it would be if Chris were here for us to share the experience with.
And, likewise, my troubles certainly seem to be doubled. While I still feel that I make good decisions and think things through, even the little things often seem like a much bigger deal. And it sure seems that I have my share of "little things" sometimes. Oh well, life happens to everyone...no one is exempt!
I'm glad I found the quote. It is nice to hear people who have "been through it" and hear their advice, perspective, and wisdom. And it was nice to reflect and think about the doubled joy and halved troubles, even if just for a short time.
"When you are married, your joy is doubled and your troubles are halved."
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I'm so sorry that Chris is gone for you. I absolutely saw and felt that joy for the two of you and in you when you were together. Yes, it brings tears, but also smiles, because he was a joy and I too, think about him and how he made everything seem so mch more fun and not quite so serious. I remember so many times when we would just be sitting around and he would just make a silly face, or comment and have us all cracking up. I miss him.
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